Living In The Shadow Of An Unhealthy Relationship

What Do You Do?

What can you do when your ex just won't go away? How can you heal? If you believe that your ex was your soul mate, but the relationship was not a healthy one for you, the pain can be devastating! It was hard enough to make the decision to get out of a relationship that was mentally debilitating, but the only way to heal is to cut off all contact with that person. Unfortunately, when your family won't let go of the ex, (and vice-versa), it can magnify your pain tenfold. It is even worse when you know that your ex is only coming over to rub it in your face.

Everyone needs time and distance after an intense relationship! You can bury yourself in your work, find a new relationship, or travel. I prefer to travel because it covers both the time and distance. The only other way to heal is to move away from both the family and the ex. That may be the best option, especially when your parents refuse to respect your wishes and continue a relationship with your ex, however, it is usually easier said then done. Even the most dysfunctional families have a complicated bond. If you are strong enough to walk away, you should be well on the way to a healthier and more peaceful life. It is like coming out of a dark tunnel into the bright sunlight. Whatever may be holding you back from that, has to be removed.